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title: Safety: using BDSM gear safely | Kinky Box
description: Read this before you start: consent, a stop word, never leaving anyone alone, checking the gear, and what to watch for item by item.
source: https://kinkybox.nl/en/safety
language: en
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Other languages: [Nederlands](https://kinkybox.nl/veiligheid)

# Safety

Read this before you start. It is short, and it applies every time.

## With consent, with a stop word

Use the gear only with someone who says yes to it, clearly and sober. Agree a stop word beforehand, and a hand signal for anyone who cannot speak. Stop means stop, at once.

Not under the influence of alcohol or drugs. Not when someone is ill, injured in that area, pregnant, or has heart, circulation or breathing problems.

## Never alone

Never leave someone alone who is restrained or suspended, not even for a moment. Stay in the room and watch breathing, colour and responses. Do not restrain yourself when you are alone.

## Breathing

Nothing around the neck and nothing that restricts breathing. Nobody face down, with the head forced forward or with the chest compressed. If someone goes quiet, limp or blue: release at once.

## Check the gear

Look everything over before each use: leather, straps, buckles, chains and carabiners. If anything is torn, frayed or loose, do not use it. You do not repair anything yourself; it goes back in the box.

## Hygiene

Use a barrier wherever something touches mucous membranes, and do not share items. Do not wash leather or steel yourself: after every rental we disinfect everything and care for the leather. Intact skin only.

## Afterwards

After a session you may both feel tired, cold or emotional. That is normal. Release, check, give water and a blanket, and talk it over. A cool compress helps with bruises.

## Item by item

### Kinky Box
Two fingers fit under a cuff. Handcuffs go on the double lock so they cannot tighten; the key stays within reach.
Check fingers and toes regularly. Cold, pale or tingling means release. Take a break after a quarter of an hour.
Nipple clamps for a short time only; taking them off hurts more than putting them on. The collar is for show, never pull on the throat.
Flogger, paddle and crop on the buttocks and outer thighs only.

### Sling + frame
Set the frame up on a flat, hard floor, exactly as the instructions say, and check that everything is locked.
For one person up to 150 kg.
Before each use, check frame, chains, carabiners and straps. Stop if anything creaks, slips or frays.
Nobody stays in the sling alone.

### Flogger
Start light and warm up slowly. Buttocks and outer thighs only.
Never the spine, kidneys, neck, head, joints or stomach. Watch for tails that wrap around the body.
Stop on sharp pain, numbness or broken skin.

### Gas mask
Restricting breath is among the riskiest things in kink. Never alone, never under the influence, and only with someone you can free in seconds.
Agree a hand signal. Mask off at panic, dizziness or blue lips.
Short rounds, real breaks. If in doubt, do not.

### Electro box
Never place electrodes across the chest, over the heart, or on the head, neck or throat; current must never cross the heart.
Use only what we supply, never anything mains-powered.
Not with a pacemaker, heart condition, epilepsy or pregnancy. Start at zero and raise slowly. Disconnect before moving pads.

### Fucking machine
The person receiving sets the speed and can stop the machine at once. The controls stay within their reach.
Start at the lowest speed and shortest stroke. Plenty of water-based lubricant and a barrier on every contact part.
Never leave it running unattended. Keep hair, cords and fingers clear of moving parts.